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Sometimes you see couples that seem to click in a certain way.
You never see them get frustrated with one another. They’re
always kissing and touching in public. They constantly look like
they’re having the most fun possible. I know… they’re the
worst.
But the truth is, a lot of work goes on behind the scenes to get
them to being in that kind of place every day. They aren’t
going home, sitting in the dark and expressing their feelings to
one another all night long. It’s actually a lot simpler than that.
When it comes to our intimate relationships, it’s the little
things that make or break you.
On the negative side of things, the little things that bother you
about your partner can pile up and eventually dissolve the
relationship. He always forgets his keys at work. She leaves
her dishes in the sink. But, if you are doing all the little things
to positively influence your relationship, it can essentially wipe
away all the negative things.
You too can be that Disgust*ng couple in the back booth, at the
restaurant, who doesn’t seem to realize there are other people
in the universe.
1. Touch Each Other
I cannot express the importance of this enough. I don’t believe
in people who say they don’t like public displays of affection.
To me it sounds like they’re just worried about people judging
them. Because really… what else would it be?
If you don’t love your partner enough to kiss, hug, grab, b*tt
slap them in public, it means you’re prioritizing the public. And
you don’t even know them.
Everyone needs touch. It’s a strange thing. But we do.
Animals who receive less physical affection tend to be
underdeveloped and overall less happy than those who receive
regular touch in their developmental years. Even those who
suffer from autism and other disorders that make human touch
less desirable to them can still be calmed with use of a device
called a ‘hugging machine’. Which is literally exactly what it
sounds like.
Bottom line, the more you and your partner engage in physical
touch, the more happy loving chemicals will be released in
your bodies, and you’ll like each other. It’s like your tricking
them into loving you, but with hugs! So get over that little
trigger that says ‘People are watching, I can’t kiss you,’
because you know what those people are thinking about?
Themselves. Always. I promise… you’re not that important.
2. Gratitude
You know the number one thing that leads to happy productive
employees? Positive feedback. But not just any positive
feedback. Frequent positive feedback.
Psychologist Ron Friedman discusses in his book The Best
Place To Work, “Business feedback indicates that smaller
frequent positive feedback and rewards will keep people happy
longer than a single large infrequent happy event.”
This isn’t just true for business, it’s true for humans. We’re
more likely to stay happy if we know that we’re on the right
path and that we’re being appreciated.
Showing daily gratitude to your partner is essential for a
thriving relationship. You should never a$$ume your partner
‘just knows’ how you feel about them. And even if they do, it’s
something they’ll never get sick of hearing. Well…unless you’re
just repeating ‘I love you‘ for hours at a time. That may be
overkill.
3. Unbreakable Dates
Whatever you spend the most time on is going to flourish.
That’s a fact. That even goes for the things you don’t
particularly enjoy.
If you spend the majority of your time working hard at a job
you hate, you are unwittingly locking yourself into that
position. How many times have you heard of people who have
been working long hours and want to quit their jobs, but just
before they could, they were offered a shiny new position and
pay raise? It happens all the time. All of their hard work paid
off… they just didn’t really want it to pay off.
So, shouldn’t your relationship be high on your priority list?
In this crazy modern day world, we get busy. We’re
constantly plugged into work and social stimulation. Things
come up. Things get resc
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